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Saving Students & Saving Ourselves

12/12/2021

 
by Amit Sood (with a frame by the Third Eye Education writing team)
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No question, this school year has started off like no other. On Third Eye Education alone, these last few months have been fodder for a handful articles rooted in frustration (see: You Have Learned Something/You Have Lost Something, Finding Our Portals to Transcendence, and We Are the Leaders We Seek). Add in the fact that many entered this year thinking it would be a ‘return to normal,’ and it can be a very hard pill to swallow.

When stuck in a situation (or a series of situations, to be honest) that is disquieting, it can be easy to dwell on the on the negative. When drowning in a glass that’s half empty, it’s hard to acknowledge that it’s also half full.  

Which is why here we lean on Amit Sood, who we’ve collaborated with before, to highlight (1) a way we can reengage students and (2) a way we can reengage ourselves. 

​1  |  Reengage Students with Voice

In January of 2021, Sood noted the following in his Dear Friend column, first published in the Rochester Post Bulletin:
Want to help someone feel good? Let them speak 

​Do you know what is common between dark chocolate, surprises, gambling, winning the house in bingo, and meeting people who agree with us? Each of these experiences causes a surge of a chemical dopamine in our brain’s reward network. That surge feels uplifting, sometimes intensely so.
 
Another activity that increases dopamine in our reward system is talking about the self (saying the word “I”). “I do this,” “I do that,” “This is how I feel,” “I like this,” “I don’t like that,” and so on. Research shows when we talk about ourselves, our reward network activates, and we feel happy.
 
No wonder 40% of speech and 80% of social media content is people talking about themselves.
 
When you choose to listen to others mindfully, even if you cannot solve their concerns, you are helping them. This is because when they inform you, their brain’s pleasure center activates. People would even give up a monetary gain in favor of the joy of sharing information. At least that’s what the research shows.
 
So, a simple way to connect with others and make them happy is to sit back, relax, and enjoy hearing them speak — about themselves. Try this today with someone who may have missed an engaged sympathetic ear for a long time.
 
Listening to others with complete presence is such a simple way of spreading happiness. No wonder we have two ears for each mouth!
Related listen: Give Students a Say with Myron Dueck
To transfer this to the classroom, might it be possible to increase student engagement by increasing opportunities for students to use “I”?
  • I felt this book was challenging because…
  • I think this rubric wasn’t fair because…
  • I turned this assignment in late because…
 
It doesn’t mean we can’t still push deeply into content:
  • I felt this book was challenging because…might lead to ➡ and here are three examples from the text that highlight my point!
  • I think this assignment too hard because… might lead to ➡ I still don’t understand how to use math mountain—can I use another way to get the answer?
  • I turned this assignment in late because… might lead to ​➡ I don’t understand how this applies to the field I’m planning to go into. Does it apply? Can you show me?
Related read: Shifting Views on Assessments: Avoiding Blind Spots

2  |  Reengage Ourselves with Antidotes

In March of 2021, also in his Dear Friend column, Sood noted:
Give no one the power to affect your health
 
Hera was the wife and sister of Zeus, the sky and thunder god in ancient Greek religion. Hera was known for her jealousy and vengeance, which came partly as a reaction to Zeus’ infidelity.
 
The difficulties Hera faced weren’t unique to her life or her times. Many of us face difficult interpersonal situations that awaken a different Hera within us — the Hera of Hatred, Envy, Revenge and Anger (the kind that produces violent rage). Research shows this HERA predisposes us to a multitude of medical conditions.
 
Just as a physical body fighting an external infectious agent becomes inflamed and injured, and a country at war finds it difficult to keep its citizens peaceful, when we intend to hurt others — either because they hurt us or because we feel hatred or envy — we hurt ourselves.
 
Research shows a mind fighting itself or others predisposes the physical body to cardiovascular disease, cancer, infections, inflammation, dementia, and even premature death. In one of my workshops on forgiveness, a participant got up in the middle and said, “I can’t give my ex the power to increase my risk of dementia. That’s a good enough reason to forgive him, as much as I hate to do that.”
 
The other reason HERA damages our system is that once we are mired in the habit of getting angry, feeling hatred, harboring envy, or seeking revenge with one person, we deploy these missiles to the rest of the world. We paint the world with our negativity and seek out reasons to validate our inner negative feelings. These feelings start defining our life’s course.
 
Locked in the HERA prison, we start despising the world, jeopardizing our peace.
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HERA often sneaks in from an unguarded corner of the mind when you aren’t watching. It then multiplies, like a newly hatched virus against which you have no immunity. Carefully guard your mind — not just its living room, but also its attic, basement and backyard — from any elements of HERA, and sweep it clean when you find them hatching.
 
Crowd your space with the antidotes — gratitude, compassion and forgiveness. Transform your negative thoughts, so they surrender to these higher values.
 
When you convert your hatred into compassion, envy into inspiration, revenge into forgiveness, and anger into acceptance, you’ll save yourself and the people you love from much suffering.
Related read: Why Does the Frame We Use Matter? Embracing Curiosity Over Judgment.
To transfer this to our educator selves, might it be possible to “Crowd [our] space with the antidotes — gratitude, compassion and forgiveness?
  • I’m going to lose my prep hour to sub for a teacher out quarantining…might shift to:
    • …but this way at least I can meet the students who I’ll have in class next year. (gratitude)
    • …I hope he doesn’t actually end up getting Covid. (compassion)
    • …yet I’m not going to make do with the lack of sub notes considering he likely had to leave on short notice. (forgiveness)
  • I can’t believe she used that racial slur…might be followed by:
    • …at least I have a strong relationship with her and we can talk about this. (gratitude)
    • …it hurts me to think she may be others who thinks that okay. (compassion)
    • …but I’m going forgive this instance of poor word choice now that we have discussed it and start fresh with her tomorrow.  (forgiveness)
  • That email I just received really cut to the quick…might be followed by:
    • …yet, at least I know they’re engaged and passionate about this. (gratitude)
    • …I wonder what’s troubling them that they felt the need to be so curt and condescending (compassion)
    • …I’m going to share this with my principal to loop her in, and then just delete this so I can move forward. (forgiveness)

Perhaps we can use Amit Sood’s ideas as our life raft: two tools that might help us dry out and float. Once safely on a raft, our clothes no longer waterlogged, it may just be easier to see that the glass we’re floating in is also half full. 

Dr. Amit Sood is one of the world's leading experts on resilience and wellbeing, executive director of the Global Center for Resiliency and Wellbeing, and the creator of the Resilient Option program. He has also athored many articles and books, including The Mayo Clinic Guide to Stress-Free Living.


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